The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the question.

Welcome to the magical month of April being midway in the changing seasons of Autumn or Spring depending on which part of the world you are in. I love Autumn as the leaves change colour and fall in preparation for the colder winter months and the mornings feel just a little crisper.  For those north of the equator April means Spring teeming with life in full flight ready for life’s adventures.

"Why?" or "What can I learn from this?"

“Why?” or “What can I learn from this?”

Today I heard a statement that really got me thinking. The statement was this “The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the question.”  Yes right now some of you will be saying, hey wait a minute what about those people who are suffering illness, or those who haven’t got the cognition to process such a statement and yes I acknowledge such situations. However I am thinking of you, myself and the many others who may benefit from looking more closely at this statement.

Your ‘Living Envelope’ has exactly the sum total of the questions you have asked yourself. It is time to get out of the toddler defining question of why, why, why?  It is the why and the blame game that keeps you in your turmoil. Instead of being the toddler asking why or the adolescent blaming, let’s leap forward as a mature adult. Ask yourself this question “what can I learn from this?”

It is so easy to bias the questions you ask yourself, to rationalise your emotions and to give substance to your actions. It is also just as easy to turn it around and ask yourself “what can I learn from this?”

Recently I had two colleagues diagnosed with cancer in the sinus cavity. One of them was saying to her family “why me?” and her son who suffers from cystic fibrosis replied to her “why not you?” Wow that is huge. Everyone is on their own journey and what they make of that journey is up to them.

The Words that Shine challenge for this month is for you to reopen your living envelope. Are you happy with the quality of your life? Think about the following statement and question and apply it to your everyday life.

“The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the question.”
“What can I learn from this?”

Living life with passion

(C) Jenny Horn JLH 2016 all rights reserved


The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the question. — 8 Comments

  1. Hi Jenny, clever lady,you hit the nail on the head this month for me as I remind myself “to learn from the day not just to get thru a day.” Every life conflict or aggravation means self talk of “yes I did attract this situation or annoyance to me and for the learning of …..” Its not agonising or fussy mental analysis but more like giving a pause in thought to let a valuable Hunch thru. As we get experienced at breathing in mindfully we get the “inspiration” to question self : what is making me irrationally fearful right now? The answer comes instantaneously and its up to me to catch it and write it down. If I am too occupied with outside distractions then I miss the intuition.

    • A great comment Simone,
      Yes you are absolutely right in all you have said. It gives amazing insight to oneself when we can search our questions such as attracting both negative and positive happenings to our lives. I am mindful with my writings to ensure a general idea so that all readers can explore related aspects within their own journeys.
      Thanks Jenny

  2. Oh to ponder the question statement I’ve had many things asked of me over the last twelve months some from family members some by unknown at the time now a regular for coffee and a talk again raising more questions has my life improved or been determined by listening or ignoring these questions don’t know yet we will all have to wait to see what the question your asking yourself at this exact moment effects things????????

    • Yes Tony the questions you ask yourself do make a difference. This I firmly believe. Although answers don’t always come easily but over time life’s journey reveals most things.
      Thank you Tony for raising this discussion of questions.

  3. Thank you Jen
    Another great thought provoker
    Hey you made me think
    A question is a quest …ion
    So the quest you have creates a certain charge or ion. Then out of your quests charge you form the questions to help guide you!!????

    • Terry that is a brilliant way to look at the word question. I really like the idea of being positively charged. It would certainly apply to both a negative and positive charged attitude. Awesome analysis. Thank you Terry.

  4. Thank you Jenny for this amazing insight. It has made me think about my own self talk. Not just the questions but my attitude as well.
    Thank you for sharing.

    • Thank you M. Maid. Great comment and great pick up about attitudes. Yes the answers to the questions also reflect out attitude.

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